I have been a person who has made countless mistakes. I do not think I know a person who has made more wrong decisions than myself. I have always felt like the more I try to make the right decisions the more they turned out the wrong way. That pattern in my life made me feel like a complete failure in life. I have made mistakes in relationships, friendships, finances, etc. and not just one time but many, many, many times. And when you have become a serial mistake maker it takes it’s toll on your self-esteem, how you feel about yourself, how you see yourself, the thoughts that you think about yourself.
- My mistakes do not define who I am as a person. Your mistakes and who you are as a person are two different things. Many times, we identify ourselves by the things that we do and especially things that we do wrong. The mistakes that you make are not a sum of who you are as a person. Just because you make a mistake it does not make you a bad person it makes you human.
- Mistakes are not a sign that you did something wrong as much as it is a lesson of how to do things the right way. In life we all do not have teachers to teach us everything that we need to know. Sometimes life will teach us and its up to us to listen and get the lesson, but life teaches us through life experiences. I have had the lesson on finances of being carefree with my money, not living on a budget, and spending more than what I had and being broke. I have had the experience of living paycheck to paycheck and purchasing things that I could not afford to impress the outside world and all the while broke. Now there was a deeper lesson for me but I could not change that pattern in my life until I realized that I did nothing wrong but I needed to deal with that part of my life that caused me to do those things.
- Finally, you are not the only one. It is easy especially in the age of social media to feel like you are the only one who has ever made a mistake or failed at something. Social media will have you thinking that everyone life is perfect but your own, it will make you feel like everyone is climbing in life and headed to the mountain top and you are going to stay in the valley . First you have to realize that you should not compare yourself to anyone else journey but your own and then you have to realize that there is not a person on this earth who has not made a mistake several times over and just because you made a mistake does not mean you have to live in your mistake. You can and you have the power to change your life and rebound from any situation no matter how dark or bad it is YOU CAN RECOVER.