I had a conversation with some friends this weekend as I was wrapping some Christmas gifts and one of them made a comment about the gift that I was giving and why would I give this gift. Well, the conversation got a little deeper and the discussion turned into being thankful and grateful for what people do for you. My friends’ point of view was that they did not want a gift that someone wanted them to have they wanted what they wanted. They went on to explain that they think that when gift giving you should give the person the things that they want and if it involves an activity or going out it should be what the person wants to do. My point of view is that I did not necessarily disagree with them I just chose to focus on the fact that at least someone thought enough of you to acknowledge your birthday, Christmas, anniversary, etc and whatever they do should be accepted and you should be thankful for it. They did not agree with me and made that every clear!  I grew up with not a lot and a mother who did an incredibly good job at making me feel special. We did not have a lot and my mother like a lot of mothers was a single mother and worked to make ends meet. So, for me anytime someone thought of me no matter how big or how small I was always appreciative. In my opinion what I know is that being grateful for the small things will attract bigger things to be grateful for. Gratitude is really the way to living a happy life that is not defined by circumstances or things because you know, no matter how bad things get it could always be worse. I have tried to live my life being thankful for the small things in my life just as much as I am thankful for the big things in my life. I am thankful for the experiences that I have had and the people that I get to have them with. Being grateful for everything including the bad things because I know that I may not see it now but even the bad things are working for my good. Live your life in gratitude and being thankful for what you have, who you are, and whose you are. Then you will understand it is not about things or even other people it is about what being grateful does to your Spirit and in your heart and how it shapes you into a brand new and improved person.