Settling difference with the people that you love can be difficult especially if both sides are passionate or strong willed and wanting to communicate their side in a way that they feel it’s the only important opinion that matters. I have found myself on more than one occasion having disagreements with the people that I love. Often the disagreement did not end with the person hearing or understanding my point of view and sometimes it caused tensions between myself and the other party. So, I thought maybe it might be helpful to share some experiences I have had on how to settle disagreements with the people that you love without losing or permanently damaging the relationship. Again, these are just my suggestions and if you have some, I would like to hear them.

  • The first thing you should be willing to do is be open to listening to what the other person has to say. Sometimes it is easy to be dismissive of an opinion that is not our own or that we may not find value you in. So be willing to listen to what the other person has to say and listen to understand not to respond.
  • Get rid of the need to be right. A lot of times when we are in a disagreement our focus is not on sharing our thoughts, ideas, or feelings it is more about proving we are right and proving the other person is wrong. When we disagree we should be able to share how we feel or what we think and then leave it there not for the other person to agree or disagree but to just consider or hear our point of view.
  • Be open to the idea that you may be wrong. You know we all think that the way we do things, see things, or our beliefs are all right and that there is no other point of view that matters but that is incorrect. As we grow in life, we learn that there is more than one correct perspective in life, more than one way to solve a problem, and that our way is not always the best way. So be open that you may be wrong and consider another point of view.
  • Lastly agree to disagree. Sometimes after you share your point of view and the other party shares there it is not always a common ground and you still do not agree. Just because you don’t agree it does not mean it has to turn into an argument or putting down the other person point of view it just means you don’t agree and not agreeing is absolutely okay.